When you think of the words feminist or feminism, one usually thinks of adult women who want equal rights from themselves
But according to popular Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a girl child can be taught to be a feminist from an early age
She recently listed 15 suggestions on how this can be achieved
The average Nigerian parent is a very conservative person in every way. From their behavior to how they raise their kids, it is very obvious.
But who can blame them? In a world where kids are beginning to question everything (including taboo subjects such as sex) some will say it’s not their fault if they choose to tell their daughters that they will become pregnant if a boy touches them.
In many African countries, the role of a girl is spelt out. She is expected to be a mother, wife, cook, cleaner, disciplinarian and other womanly roles. But in modern times, it has been proven that not only can women become equally as successful as men, they could even be more successful without adhering to the spelt out roles expected of them.
Famous author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is one person who is a firm believer in this. A new mum of a daughter herself, she recently wrote a 9000 word article on how to raise your daughter as a feminist from an early age. She lists 15 suggestions on how to do this. See them below:
Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do not define yourself solely by motherhood.
Do it together. Remember in primary school we learnt that a verb was a ‘doing’ word? Well, a father is as much a verb as a mother.
Teach her that ‘gender roles’ is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should do or not do something “because you are a girl.”
Beware the danger of what I call Feminism Lite. It is the idea of conditional female equality. Reject this entirely. It is a hollow, appeasing, and bankrupt idea. Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not. You either believe in the full equality of women, or you do not.
Teach Chizalum to read. Teach her to love books.
Teach her to question language. Language is the repository of our prejudices, our beliefs, our assumptions. But to teach her that, you will have to question your own language.
Never speak of marriage as an achievement.
Teach her to reject likeability. Her job is not to make herself likeable, her job is to be her full self, a self that is honest and aware of the equal humanity of other people.
Give Chizalum a sense of identity. It matters. Be deliberate about it.
Be deliberate about how you engage with her and her appearance.
Teach her to question our culture’s selective use of biology as ‘reasons’ for social norms.
Talk to her about sex and start early. It will probably be a bit awkward but it is necessary.
Romance will happen so be on board.
In teaching her about oppression, be careful not to turn the oppressed into saints.
Teach her about difference. Make difference ordinary. Make difference normal. Teach her not to attach value to difference. And the reason for this is not to be fair or to be nice but merely to be human and practical.
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